Cultivating Understanding and Empathy
When each person has a deep understanding and empathy for the other, many layers of the relational “problems” dissolve. You can then move towards solving the other relationship issues together, collaboratively.
Your Relationship is Unique
Every relationship is different and requires a tailored approach. Together we seek to understand, as deeply as possible, why you are here, how you got to this juncture, and what path will lead towards the relationship you want.
Counselling for All Relationship Styles
I take each relationship on its own terms. As well as supporting people in traditional relationships, I also work with other relationship styles, such as Ethical Non-Monogamy, Polyamory and Open Relationships.
Relationship Counselling for All People
People from the LGBTIQ community are welcome in this practice. This is a safe space for all expressions of sexuality and gender identity.
Improve Communication and Deepen Connection
Couples often come to therapy because they are having the same arguments over and over without any resolution.
Or they lack the skills or trust to be open and honest with one another.
Through understanding the communication patterns specific to your relationship, and what drives them, you can discover and practise new ways of communicating that foster conflict resolution and meeting each person’s needs.
Focus on Process as well as Content
We often get lost in what we are talking about, without paying enough attention to how we are talking about it. With support you can slow down and gain insight into the unhelpful patterns of communication, and discover new and healthy ways to speak with one another.
What Lies Beneath
Often the things that drive conflict and unhealthy patterns of communication sit beneath the level of awareness. Childhood traumas, attachment wounds and previous relationship issues can powerfully influence our reactions, perceptions and stories in relationship. Bringing these to our awareness can foster understanding, empathy and opportunities to heal and let go of old patterns that no longer serve.
Learn and Practice Communication Tools
Simple tools, frames and interventions can make a big difference in how communication unfolds. We work with the ones that make sense to you, and attend to your specific dynamics.